Narcissistic Abuse

By: Kaleigh Nobbe, LPC, NCC


We hear the word “narcissist” with increasing frequency, particularly for specific behaviors. Narcissism is a term commonly used to describe those who seem more concerned with themselves than with others. However, this description is one piece of a much bigger assortment of traits that come together as Narcissism. Some people may have a few specific traits or behaviors but that doesn’t mean they have a personality disorder. Instead of labeling others, it may be more helpful to understand how those traits look in the form of behaviors, so you know what to be on the lookout for. When we are aware of the signs of narcissistic abuse, we can seek help and ensure we care for our own well-being.


Though there is some debate over if the following behaviors are considered abusive, these actions can be indicators that intervention is needed in the relationship. Love bombing and gaslighting are two behaviors that can often occur in cases of narcissistic abuse where the person will shower you with affection and dismiss or resist responsibility for their own shortcomings. Often these behaviors are used to manipulate you into a mindset that you cannot trust yourself and that the problem is within you and not them. This can quickly lead to feelings that no matter what you do, nothing is ever right. This is likely a sign that boundaries may need to be evaluated as it is another sign of narcissistic abuse when they are ignoring the boundaries you set. This may not be met with grace from the abuser and can instead lead to them projecting the issue back onto you as they nitpick your behaviors and minimize their own.


If you’re feeling conflict or resentment in your relationship, we encourage you to reach out as we can help! At Owens & Associates Counseling and Therapy Center, we support couples as they make decisions for next steps in their relationships and assist individuals as they consider their role moving forward. Whether you choose to remain in the relationship or not, we are here to help support you!


For more information on the red flags listed above, I invite you to read these additional blogs:

Relationships: Subtle Signs of an Issue

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For help navigating relationships or to better understand the impacts of narcissistic abuse, call Owens & Associates Counseling and Therapy Center today at 847-854-4333 to schedule an appointment with us.