By: Kaleigh Nobbe, Clinical Intern
One way in which I try to work with clients is in identifying judgment: “good or bad;” “right or wrong.” When we replace these judgments with “helpful or unhelpful,” “beneficial or unbeneficial,” we can start understanding the value it has in our life. For example, if a friendship is unbeneficial, I may question if they have any respect for me since their actions indicate otherwise. The friendship may still be judged as “good” because I can call them my friend, but in the long run, I am missing respect and ultimately not benefitting.
What does/doesn’t this benefit?
What does/doesn’t this help?
It is all a subjective experience that others cannot decide for us. When we decipher our own goals, we can determine if our actions are then beneficial to reaching that goal. It is a hard line to tow as our goals may contradict our feelings. Clarifying what is more important to us can be a helpful step in obtaining the life we desire.
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